How are you supposed to define making love as a bi/gay person? Only by heterosexual standards do i comprehend it. How do you know as a bi/gay man or woman that you have made love, and, especially for man on man shouldn't it be the penis rubbing the penis that is properly making love in it's purest form ie both receiving the pleasure? |
Being a woman, you might not know this, but men can and do receive pleasure by being penetrated analy. There is an organ known as the prostate that women do not have. It's location make it easily stimulated through the anus. Stimulating the prostate can be very pleasurable for a man and usually results in erection and can also result in ejaculation/orgasm.
Generally, sexual acts that involve any kind of stimulation or penetration (that means by hands, mouth/tongue, penis, toy/foreign object or other body part) that results in orgasm can be considered "making love." For women, that may mean stimulating the clitoris or nipples and for men, the penis. Both partners can receive pleasure and even reach orgasm even if only one partner is being specifically stimulated, though it is easy for both homosexual partners to stimulate each other at the same time (via oral contact, toys or other touching).
If this sexual touching and pleasuring is done with love, it is "making love."
If you insist that both partners must reach orgasm at the same time, then you must exclude a majority of heterosexual encounters from your definition of lovemaking, since few heterosexual couples regularily reach orgasm simultaniously. Women, in particular, can have difficulty since vaginal penetration alone is only 30% effective in reaching orgasm. Other stimulation (such as clitoral or nipple rubbing) is usually required for a woman to orgasm. For homosexual couples, simultanious orgasm is possible, but probably just as rare as it is in heterosexual encounters. Homosexual partners may take turns stimulating one another (just as many heterosexual couples do) or stimulate each other simultaniously. It is the arousal pleasure of one partner that helps create the arousal and pleasure of the second partner... it is a mutually pleasurable activity.
All forms of consentual sex can be "properly" called making love if love is the intent and expression involved. Does that help?
-Scarlet |
What would be good songs to make for a "Gay Love Making" CD? I was wanting to make a CD for my boyfriend and I to make love to and I have no idea what to put on it. I want it it be romantic but at the same time have a good beat. I don't want it to be slow and sappy but I don't want it to be all hard and "POUND MY ***!" type of music. |
| Pick some music that you both like that isn't too metal or too slow. Wouldn't be cool enough if you made him a CD of his favorite songs? I bet he'd like it =] |
Why do some (some, not all) religious people compare gay people making love to bestiality? Do they not understand the idea of "mutual consent"? |
| No, they do not understand consent. It's also their subtle way of saying gays aren't human. |
Flatulence a good thing or bad thing in gay love making? Just wondering.... |
LOL, feels nice and tingly on the pee pee
wanna try? |
How do you make love, the gay way? And obviously I mean, there's a difference between making love and simply having sex. What do you find intimate and emotionally? Are there certain positions, for example? I really would like to show my partner how much he means to me, in a physical way.
And clearly, this question is for gay people, I don't find juvinele remarks about sexuality clever and most people over the age of 15 don't either.
Much appreciated |
| See, everyone always says that making love has to be slow and gentle. However, my partner and I, although being utterly in love, have never gone slow. We've always had passionate, mad, wild sex, and it's always been loving too. I guess if there's lots of kissing and staring into each others eyes and declarations of love, it's loving sex. Just do what works for you. If you love him, it'll come naturally. |
LGBT: some questions about gay (making) 'love' (male please)? well i was just thinking to myself.... 'what 'is' it like?' and yeah thats what im asking you... like.. to have someone there for you who you love and stuff.
then also like... when u ermmm have gay sex, does it hurt?( uno.. up the back passage) or do u get used to it over time? and last one, whats the first kiss like? what if im rubbish.. like.. do u just 'know' how to make out when it comes tot he moment? is it a wonderful feeling? (if with the right guy?)
thanks in advance. |
Ive had sex with men before...and when giving it, it does hurt the first time...but you get used to it...it feels good both ways (to give and get)
first kiss was amazing and the guy was really sweet....ive had tons of "experiances" so i already know what to do when faced with the situation
and yes its a wonderful feeling :)
if you have any questions about it email me ok?
gaytartlove@yahoo.com |
How does making love via barebacking feels like? For the gays to answer.? I am comparing with straight couples with a penis making love versus gays, I always wonder how it feels like. Hope a gay can answer me this, cheers. |
| It's a lovely and wonderful feeling, I always feel very close to my partner during and after. |
Would it be wrong to think about making a book with lesbian and gay love letters from home to their military? partners who where in the gulf war and Afghanistan iraq war? |
| Thoughts are not inherently wrong. Actions can be wrong. If you want to write a book like that, I personally think it would be interesting. |